Written by: Michelle Molle-Krowiak, LCSW, Ed.S
As 2018 comes to a close, it is a time for reflection and a time to set new goals for the upcoming year.
What is your resolution?
This is a perfect time to make yourself a priority. Yes, you, fellow mamas. In today’s busy society, I juggle working two jobs and being a chauffeur to my four kids to numerous activities, sports and clubs; all while being kept in the loop with my iPhone attached to me!
My main resolution is taking care of myself! Yes, making me the mom a priority is my goal for 2019. Here is how I am going to do it;
First, my goal is for myself is to exercise as a way to manage physical stress and stay healthy. This still needs to be a priority as I face my changing body due to age (I am sure many can relate with me on this!). However, for me, I need to find a way to exercise at home instead of donating money to a lucky gym!
Finding a realistic goal for yourself- you know yourself the best! For me, the resolution of running a marathon is too high and I will abandon shortly into 2019. However, my goal of walking three times in a week for thirty minutes is still challenging but an achievable goal that will greatly alter my life for the good.
Exercise makes you physically feel better with many health benefits (I need to lower my cholesterol). Exercise also benefits your brain and can give us that clarity that we so very badly need in the midst of the “mom brain fog”. Your mood will be lifted as endorphins and other neurotransmitters are released.
In reflecting on 2018, I want to continue my quest to focus on mindfulness. Truly this was the best gift I gave myself this past year. Whenever I feel lost twirling in the tornado of life, I stop and give myself a moment... you will find yourself in the “Eye of the Storm” of calmness. It doesn’t stop the storm or our crazy life, but it does give you the tools to stay calm and enjoy the moments. I also been practicing self compassion for those moments when I can’t help but get swept into the storm before being able to ground myself again. It is a process and this is my journey that I will continue to work on in 2019.
My third resolution is to unplug with taking breaks from technology and putting down the iPhone. Learning to connect more in the moment with the people in the room verse feeling connected to those that are afar. Technology has so many benefits, but finding my balance is my goal for the new year.
Technology can be a slippery slope. For me, I find that I spent an exorbitant amount of time on social media. I know I’m not alone. In an effort to decrease my time spent on Facebook or Instagram, I stopped posting and disconnected from groups as well as friends I follow. For 2019, I want to unplug more and create more family time. We all struggle to leave work at work and set more distinct time for work and family. I will be defining my time and sticking with it for 2019!
My last resolution is to play more! Play heals the soul. Be silly. Enjoy life. I want to connect with my kids while also re-connecting with my inner child. With unplugging, I plan on starting family game night (my kids don’t know it yet but they will have a resolution of unplugging too)!
I’m looking forward to the new year, and hope that you will join me on making YOU a priority in 2019 with these New Year Resolutions:
Exercise - build a healthy body - externally & internally.
Mindfulness - building an appreciation for the moment.
Mindfulness will keep you grounded, focused and calm.
Unplug - taking breaks from technology and finding balance.
From all of us at Psychological and Educational Consulting, we wish you and your family a Happy New Year 2019!
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Dr. Liz Matheis
Dr Liz Matheis and her team specialize in assisting children and their families with Anxiety, Autism, AD/HD, Learning Disabilities and Behavioral Struggles