A new year inspires a fresh start, new goals, a new perspective. Hence, why you are likely being bombarded by others' and your own thoughts about new year's resolutions.
But, what if this year, it wasn't about things to do differently on the physical level? What if it was about changing your mindset, forgiving yourself, and moving away from the "super" mentality - super mom, super wife, super friend, super sister, super daughter-in-law, and the list goes on.
We wanted to share a blog that emphasized the emotional and mental resolutions that we can use the first of the year to inspire us to hold onto and practice every day, day and night, holidays and regular old routines, any season.
This blog comes from Forbes magazine and we hope you enjoy it as much as we did!
Happy 2018 to you and your family and friends! May the new bring us all much needed self love, simplicity, and sincerity.
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This blog has been prepared for our readers by Chrissy Sunberg, M.Ed., AAC, our In-Home ADHD Coach and Special Education Teacher. She encourages parents to be kind to yourselves, as we bust our butts each day to manage the multiple aspects of work, life, family, school, activities, friendships, and all the other details of daily life.
Let's hear it for the mother's and father's that work hard each day and night so that their children with learning differences can succeed socially, academically and emotionally. This one is for you. But, in the midst of your everyday life management, how are you taking care of yourselves and recharging your batteries so that you don't burn out? I'm sure you did the laundry so that your daughter can have her uniform ready for her third game this week. And I know you will be there cheering her team on. I'm sure you took time out of your day to write another e-mail to the occupational therapist, touched base with the ADHD coach and I'm pretty sure you even had a meeting at the school with your son's teachers. Oh wait a minute, you also went to work today!
This is just an average day for a parent that has a child with learning differences. It can be exhausting, leaving you with no time to care for YOU. When I ask my clients, "If you can have just one thing, what would it be?" They all said, "more time in the day to take care of myself!"
A few years ago I decided to practice self-compassion. Self- compassion is giving ourselves the same kindness and care we'd give to a good friend or a family member.
So, I started practicing yoga and thus began the journey of self-compassion. At first, I felt guilty because I was no longer up and right there in the kitchen ready to take everybody's orders on a Sunday morning. I got over that quickly and Sunday mornings are NOW my mornings to practice self-compassion. It makes me a better mom and wife.
Give yourself permission to meet your own needs, recognizing that this will not only enhance your quality of life; it will also enhance your ability to be there for those that rely on you, according to Dr. Kristen Neff, author of Self-Compassion.
"Before you assist others, always put your oxygen mask on first.”
This above sentence resonates with me. The flight attendants encourage you to secure your oxygen mask first. If you don’t, you and the person you want to help could both go down. You can start practicing self-compassion and taking care of yourself little by little each day. Read below for some ideas on practicing self-compassion. Remember this is an invitation to read on, and not an obligation.
1. Treat Yourself Like your Best Friend
Practice positive self-talk. Some examples are, I am enough, like any human being, I have strengths and weaknesses, and that's ok, and I give myself the gift of unconditional love.
2. Comfort your Mind & Body
Eat something healthy and drink your favorite cup of tea. Lie down and rest while watching a feel-good movie. Take a walk or practice yoga. Anything you can do to improve how you feel physically gives you a dose of self-compassion.
3. Schedule your Wellness & Self-Care Appointments
When you leave your next doctor, hair, nail or massage appointment, schedule the next one and add it to your calendar so it’s sure to happen.
4. Set Boundaries on What and How Much You Can Handle
The great power of the two letter word NO! Its ok to say no to your children, your husband, your parents and your friends.
Remember you can't pour from an empty cup so go fill up your cup with something tasty and enjoy taking care of yourself.
I came across this blog and needed to share it with our readers. As a parent, I am constantly questioning myself if I am connecting and bonding enough with my children each day. I know I'm not the only one thinking about this.
This blog identifies 10 ways that we can connect physically and emotionally with our children each day.. even in the midst of our busy schedules with work, school, activities, homework, and all the other things we try to conquer each day.
Prepared by Michelle Molle-Krowiak, Ed.S., LCSW, a mom of 4 and a woman who practices what she blogs about!
As we embrace the cooler weather and prepare for the season, this article, Gratitude Wheel" Art Project by Betsy Hanger
published in Mindful Schools, resonated with me.
I am eager to weave in mindfulness into my daily life for my personal self and both my professionals roles, at a private school and at Psychological and Educational Consulting. I thought this would be a perfect December activity.
Create an "I Am Grateful For..." Wheel
Betsy Hanger guides with the following instructions of putting in a center circle filled with the words "I am grateful for...". Next, divide the wheel with spokes making pie sections. Record what you are grateful for. Finally, Betsy Hanger encourages reflection of self by taking notice of our feelings by the following: "....slow down and notice if they feel their gratitude growing as they make the wheel."
Live In the Moment
So my challenge and hope is to provide opportunities of mindfulness for our families. As I will be doing, I ask you to make your own gratitude wheel. Reflect. Make one for yourself and then make one with the whole family. I know I will be incorporating this into my holiday festivities for myself and my family helping my children not to center on the materialistic aspects of the holidays but the true meaning! However, no holiday is needed; just a few moments in a day, any day can be used to help center ourselves.
Make Wishes for Another
In the end, Betsy Hanger concludes, "to end, send three kind wishes to someone on your wheel." What an amazing way to truly practice and manifest that gratitude - send positive wishes and energy to another person! That may be the boost that person needs to get through a tough moment, situation, or day.
So in closing, on behalf of Psychological and Educational consulting, I wish you and your family:
~ An abundance of love and support.
~ The ability to be in the present moment allowing the worries of yesterday to fade and the fears of tomorrow to be at bay.
~ To relish the connection with your child and soak in the joyful moments.
I would like to express our gratitude for the support, ideas and materials provided by Mindful Schools for being our reference in this blog and for the inspiration. We would also like to thank our families who enrich our lives daily and allow us to to be part of their special journey.
Our therapist, Stephanie Fredericka, LCSW shares this blog with us today, as it spoke to her as a mother of a 3 year old little boy in preschool.
As a parent of a preschool aged child as well, it is a challenge to balance the teaching of academic skills while our little ones are also learning how to interact socially as a member of a larger classroom, instead of our homes.
Dr. Liz Matheis
Dr Liz Matheis and her team specialize in assisting children and their families with Anxiety, Autism, AD/HD, Learning Disabilities and Behavioral Struggles