By: Nicole Filiberti, MSW, LCSW
"Come on, hurry up and get your math homework done so we can get to soccer practice on time! You can eat dinner in the car on the way there. Don't forget that after practice you have a Girl Scout event and then when we get back we have to review your spelling words for tomorrow's test!" How many of you can relate to these kinds of conversations with your kids? Our kids today are so overbooked with activities and stimuli that it's no wonder anxiety is on the rise. The following are some tips to help families navigate all of the hustle and bustle in a balanced manner.
1. Limit the amount of commitments your child has
I still encourage the use of a rule that Dr. Liz had shared with me one day. "One activity, per kid, per season". Maybe your child enjoys playing two different sports in one season. Maybe they enjoy their piano lessons and singing in the school choir. Have a conversation with your child and narrow it down instead of automatically signing up for all of the activities at once. Take things on gradually, seeing how one activity plays out in the schedule before signing up for another.
2. Schedule down time
With schedules so packed, take a look at the calendar and notice where there are open spots. Make it a priority to keep these spots open and allow your child to have down time where there is less structure and less pressure to perform a certain way. Children need some time to unwind from the school day and busy weekends filled with activities. This is also a good opportunity to schedule quality time together as a family, which does not have to be anything elaborate. Planning a family movie or game night are easy ways to promote healthy communication patterns and family bonding. This scheduled down time should be just as much of a priority as the piano recitals, soccer games and cheer practices.
3. Check in with your child
Engage your children in ongoing discussions where you are checking in with their stress level. Tell them that it is perfectly acceptable for them to speak up if they feel they are too busy or not getting enough time to rest. Help your child develop their priorities in terms of extracurriculars and narrow down the ones that mean more to them. This will depend heavily on your child's developmental level, but it is important that as they mature, they have more of a say in their extracurricular activities.
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Dr. Liz Matheis
Dr Liz Matheis and her team specialize in assisting children and their families with Anxiety, Autism, AD/HD, Learning Disabilities and Behavioral Struggles