I know I'm not alone, and after reading this blog by Holly Riordan, I know there are more people in my anxious clan. But we wouldn't know it because we are embarrassed by our anxiety. We are ashamed of our spiraling thoughts. So, we get up, get out and do.
Please know that if you are anxious, it's okay. There's nothing wrong with you. You came into the world wired with an extra sensitivity gene. You have a high level of awareness of your feelings and the feelings of those around you. This may feel like a curse, but it can be a blessing. You may be one of the few people who look at another and understand that she is scared too. You can be a source of support and comfort to another.
And here it is... read and know you are AWESOME, my fellow anxious friend.
The Strongest People are People with Anxiety by Holly Riordan
They are strong because they're in a constant battle with their anxiety. It's telling them that they can't. Tat they should speak up. That they shouldn't get out of bed.
Some days, they listen to everything that voice tells them. But other days, they find the power to ignore. They find the strength to leave their room. To socialize. To smile.
They are strong because they show up even when they are shaking. They speak even when it's with a quiet voice. They keep breathing, even when those breaths are shaky.
It would be easy for them to cancel plans with their friends, turn down dates, skip class, call in sic - and sometimes, they do. Sometimes, the idea of being around people is too much for them to handle.
But most of the time, they do what they have to do. They switch off their alarm. They shower. They get dressed. and then they get stuff done.
Of course, they are distracted throughout the day. The tiniest thing can send their mind spinning. A text from someone they didn't expect to hear from. An email they aren't quite sure how to answer. A strange look from one of their coworkers or crushes.
They suffer from constant self consciousness, but they push past it. They ignore the way they think everyone is looking at them, judging them, and they force themselves to be productive. They force themselves to focus on what's important.
They refuse to let anxiety control their life. They won't let the dark thoughts eclipse the positive ones. They're motivated to be the best person they can be.
At times, the anxiety makes them feel weak Lesser. Like they don't deserve to be in the same room as people that can talk to strangers as if they've known each other for years.
But even though they feel inferior, that's far from the truth. They are warriors. Why can't they see that?
They try so hard. They put in so much effort. And they have gotten so far.
Some people rarely venture outside of their comfort zone - but they are outside of their comfort zone every day. They're either worried about what to say or what to wear or where to park They are never relaxed. They are always on edge.
That's why they're always learning. Always growing. Every second of every day.
Sure, there are times when they suffer from setbacks. When they stay in their pajamas and put off showering.
But there are other times when they find the courage to speak their mind. When they surprise themselves with how brave they can be.
They probably don't realize it yet, but people with anxiety are the strongest people in the world, because they never have a minute of peace. Because they're always struggling - and they're always winning.