Whether you like to admit it or not, you and your spouse each have a parenting style. You may have a similar style or you may differ. Whatever the case may be, it’s helpful to know each other’s approach to parenting as this will help you to better understand each other as well as make decisions together. When parents are not aligned in their parenting style, this gives your children the chance to take advantage of your differences. It also ends up in unclear rules or a lack of consistency in your home. And, it’s okay if the two of you don’t have identical parenting styles, but it’s not okay to disagree and argue in the presence of your child(ren). Instead, discuss the situation together and come to an agreement – and then share your decision with your child. So, what is your parenting style? There are four: 1- Authoritarian Parenting: This is the old school approach to parenting where strict rules are set in place and the expectation is that your child(ren) will follow… because I said so! With this style, parents have high demands but low responsiveness to their child’s needs. This parent expects obedience without questioning. 2-Authoritative Parenting: This type of parent also establishes rules and guidelines for their child(ren) but is more responsive. This type of parent is accepting of questions and wants to hear his/her child’s thoughts. When rules are broken, this type of parent is more forgiving and nurturing rather than punishing. 3-Permissive Parenting: Parents who use this approach make few demands on their child, can be indulgent, and rarely discipline. This is the exact opposite of the authoritarian parenting style in which the parent uses a non-confrontational style, and wants to be his/her child’s friend. 4-Un-involved Parenting: This parenting style is characterized by low demands, low responsiveness and little communication. This type of parent will meet his/her child’s basic needs but are not involved. At the end of the day, remember, you are the parents and you are in charge. Your child(ren) rely on you to be the authority figure even if they act in ways that make you think that they don’t want those boundaries. Boundaries are healthy. In fact, boundaries create a sense of safety and security. As parents, figure out which parenting style you use and decide how you will parent your children together, consistently, every day, and without disrespecting each other.
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- Anonymous
"The various psycho-educational testing Dr. Liz conducted on our son gave us critical clues about where his learning strengths and weaknesses lie so that his needs could be better addressed at home and school. Moreover, because of their warm, kindhearted personalities, both Dr. Liz and her associate, Stephanie, formed an immediate bond with my son. He eagerly looks forward to his weekly therapy sessions. We are so lucky Dr. Liz came into our family's lives when she did! For stressed-out families trying to help their children as best they can, she is a calming voice of reason!"
- Anonymous
"Thank you, Dr. Liz. Although we have told you countless times, it will never feel enough. You have listened when J could barely speak and continued to listen when he was sad, angry and confused. You've challenged him and directed us in our roles as parents. You've helped J face his fears while the list evolved and changed, and yet you've stayed committed to 'the course.' We pray that your children realize that time away from them is spent helping children learn and that vulnerability is a sign of strength and bravery."
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"My son was admitted to an Ivy League school when only 2 years ago, you assessed him and saw his struggles, his Dyslexia.
We are grateful that he no longer has to carry that deep feeling of inadequacy or shame that must have kept him so self conscious and from reaching his potential. He has the PERFECT program for him. He has A's in high math and economics.
He became a Merit Scholar, a Boys State legislature, the HEAD captain of the football team and help a job ALL while studying and managing his classes and disability.
I am PROUD of you, a young doctor, who knows and sees the vulnerability of children and helps them recognize "it's NO big deal"
God bless."
- Anonymous