{"id":637427,"date":"2024-01-31T05:30:32","date_gmt":"2024-01-31T10:30:32","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.psychedconsult.com\/?p=637427"},"modified":"2024-01-13T10:54:38","modified_gmt":"2024-01-13T15:54:38","slug":"what-adhd-is-not","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.psychedconsult.com\/what-adhd-is-not\/","title":{"rendered":"What ADHD Is Not"},"content":{"rendered":"<div class=\"wpb-content-wrapper\"><p>[vc_row][vc_column][vc_column_text]<\/p>\n<h2>What ADHD Is Not<\/h2>\n<p><em>written by Dr. Liz Matheis, posted on <a href=\"https:\/\/www.psychologytoday.com\/\">Psychology Today<\/a><\/em><\/p>\n<p>It\u2019s so easy to have opinions about children, teens, and young adults with ADHD. What we often label as laziness, poor <a class=\"basics-link\" title=\"Psychology Today looks at motivation\" href=\"https:\/\/www.psychologytoday.com\/us\/basics\/motivation\" hreflang=\"en-US\">motivation<\/a>, intentional, and not being able to \u201cjust do it\u201d is not those things at all.<\/p>\n<p>In fact, our kids with ADHD have their real struggles and strengths. It is a diagnosis that is often misunderstood and mislabeled. Other adults (e.g., teachers or other parents) who don\u2019t have a child with ADHD (or don\u2019t have the diagnosis themselves) may seem judgmental or criticize us for not being more stringent and practicing more \u201ctough love.\u201d It\u2019s so very easy to judge from the outside.<\/p>\n<h3>ADHD is not intentional or manipulation<\/h3>\n<p>Children and adolescents with ADHD are often perceived as being able to control their behavior but <em>choosing<\/em> not to. This is a misperception because hyperactivity and impulsivity happen without thinking \u2014 it\u2019s a matter of neurological wiring as well as over- or under-activity of neurotransmitters or neurochemicals in different parts of the brain.<\/p>\n<p>An adult may observe a child with ADHD who is speaking excessively, talking over others, getting up and moving fast when having a thought, asking a great number of questions, or falling off of his or her seat. These manifestations of ADHD are not happening out of a malicious or willful intent to be difficult or disruptive. Within the classroom, that child is not trying to interrupt a lesson or distract classmates.<\/p>\n<p>These behaviors are manifestations of ADHD, just as low insulin is a manifestation of diabetes.<\/p>\n<h3>ADHD is not due to permissive or lax parenting<\/h3>\n<p>Sadly, parents are often blamed for their child or adolescent\u2019s <a class=\"basics-link\" title=\"Psychology Today looks at hyperactive\" href=\"https:\/\/www.psychologytoday.com\/us\/basics\/adhd\" hreflang=\"en-US\">hyperactive<\/a> or impulsive behaviors, limited social judgment, or academic struggles. ADHD is not due to <a class=\"basics-link\" title=\"Psychology Today looks at parenting\" href=\"https:\/\/www.psychologytoday.com\/us\/basics\/parenting\" hreflang=\"en-US\">parenting<\/a>. Often, parents attempt to accommodate their child\u2019s weaknesses by creating support in their home and school to help their son or daughter to function at their best. Parents may hear they are being &#8220;too easy&#8221; or not being &#8220;strict&#8221; enough. How many times has a parent of a child or <a class=\"basics-link\" title=\"Psychology Today looks at teen\" href=\"https:\/\/www.psychologytoday.com\/us\/basics\/adolescence\" hreflang=\"en-US\">teen<\/a> with ADHD heard, \u201cHe needs more tough love\u201d? Well, tough love isn\u2019t going to teach the skills the child needs, but rather it\u2019s going to cause more frustration and likely feelings of <a class=\"basics-link\" title=\"Psychology Today looks at anxiety\" href=\"https:\/\/www.psychologytoday.com\/us\/basics\/anxiety\" hreflang=\"en-US\">anxiety<\/a> and low <a class=\"basics-link\" title=\"Psychology Today looks at self-esteem\" href=\"https:\/\/www.psychologytoday.com\/us\/basics\/self-esteem\" hreflang=\"en-US\">self-esteem<\/a>.[\/vc_column_text][\/vc_column][\/vc_row][vc_row][vc_column][vc_btn title=&#8221;Click here to continue reading&#8221; color=&#8221;primary&#8221; link=&#8221;url:https%3A%2F%2Fwww.psychologytoday.com%2Fus%2Fblog%2Fspecial-matters%2F202401%2Fwhat-adhd-is-not&#8221;][\/vc_column][\/vc_row]<\/p>\n<\/div>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>[vc_row][vc_column][vc_column_text] What ADHD Is Not written by Dr. Liz Matheis, posted on Psychology Today It\u2019s so easy to have opinions about children, teens, and young adults with ADHD. 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