Parenting is the toughest job I have ever had. I have never felt so vulnerable as I do as a parent. Not only am I on 24-7 but my job has changed from making sure I have my little ones favorite snacks to being able to hear how hard it is to manage emotions in a growing body and things don’t always make sense. I worry. A lot. I’ve always worried but now, I really worry now. I wonder how their day is going, if they’ve been able to keep up with their lessons, class assignments, the social art of navigating lunch, recess, the bus.
I pray for all of our childrens’ safety as they are housed within a building that once seemed safe. I pray for our children to know and show kindness to each other and to befriend and protect the kids who are a bit more emotionally fragile.
I know you can relate to parenting being a trigger of our own ‘stuff’, the stuff that we thought we could leave behind. But parenting makes you feel out of control. It’s unpredictable and sometimes it’s ok, and other times, it’s awesome, and other times, I just want to quit.
No one really likes to talk about the times they want to quit because there is immense pressure to be a great mom, no, a super mom! A super mom who can handle her own childhood issues when triggered while parenting and still keep it cool, say something meaningful and still be able to look good while doing it.
Not my experience and I have a strong feeling that I’m part of a really big club that doesn’t like to admit that parenting and mothering triggers anxiety and childhood unresolved conflicts.
Please repeat this mantra with me everyday, but especially on the days when you feel emotionally drained: “I am the best mom I can be. I am good enough as a person and a mom. This rough moment will pass.”
Please read this blog “Taking Control of Your Parenting Triggers” by Imperfect Families. Take comfort in knowing you are not alone in this journey.
Dr. Liz Matheis
Dr Liz Matheis and her team specialize in assisting children and their families with Anxiety, Autism, AD/HD, Learning Disabilities and Behavioral Struggles