Parents: Set Your New Year’s Intentions, Not Resolutions

Parents: Set Your New Year’s Intentions, Not Resolutions

written by Dr. Liz Matheis, published in Psychology Today

It’s 2022! Many of us have high hopes for the new year for our country, our world, our homes, our lives. This is especially true since the pandemic started in 2020, and we all want nothing more than a new year to bring new hope and intense change, perhaps even a return to “normal.” While this much time has passed, our desire to return to life before March 2020 is unrealistic as we all have transformed and evolved during the past almost two years. As the new year begins, I encourage us to begin to reflect on what the last two years have brought to us as parents and how we can take care of ourselves in the same way that we care for our children and the people around us.

The Burnout Is Real

As parents, we are burned out. We have played multiple roles that we never thought we would take on, and many of us are experiencing a high level of residual anxiety about our physical and emotional well-being as we continue to work through the COVID-19 pandemic.

New Jersey Free Rehab Centers

New Jersey Free Rehab Centers

posted on Free Rehab Centers

In New Jersey, free rehab centers are available in a number of locations. These free treatment facilities offer addiction services such as detoxification, outpatient treatment, opioid abuse treatment, and residential options.

If you or someone you love are in need of drug or alcohol abuse treatment, there are resources and services available to you for free or at a very low cost.

Many drug rehab centers know the financial challenges that their clients face, so they offer things like scholarships, donation funds, and other options for assistance.

While some addiction treatment centers don’t offer free services to everyone, there are many programs that will not turn you away due to an inability to pay.

This is usually determined on the basis of income and assets. If you qualify for assistance, you can get the full cost, or part of your cost, subsidized by the organization or government.

Why Moms Mom-Shame

Why Moms Mom-Shame

written by Molly Shea, published on parents.com

Lindsay Powers Eichmann had been a mother for three weeks when she experienced her first bout of mom-shaming. “We were at Target, and a woman came up to us and said, ‘Oh my goodness, what are you doing with a baby that small out in the world?!'” she recalls. Eichmann and her husband had been proud and relieved to make it out of the house, but the comment made her reconsider. Things snowballed from there.

“People would tell me ridiculous things,” she says. “When I was doing the cry-it-out method, someone said, “Oh, he’ll never attach to you—haven’t you heard of the Romanian orphans?” referring to decades-old research performed on severely neglected infants.

Eichmann’s experience shouldn’t be a surprise to any mom. A 2017 report from Michigan’s C.S. Mott Children’s Hospital found that nearly two-thirds of mothers have been “shamed” for their parenting decisions, criticized for everything from the way they discipline their children to the foods they feed them. Add social media to the mix, and it feels like every parenting decision you make is up for judgment and scrutinized by those around you—minus all the important context.

When Parents Grieve What They Thought Would Be

When Parents Grieve What They Thought Would Be

written by Dr. Liz Matheis, published on psychology today

When we experience a loss, whether physical or perceived, we tend to respond with shock and disbelief. We may then experience an intense flood of emotions, all while trying to accept a reality that we did not want.

As parents, when our child is diagnosed with a medical condition, learning disability, autism, or anything else that could be serious and/or long-lasting, we may experience grief and mourning as we struggle to understand what we are feeling and why we are feeling this way.

Embracing the Diversity Within Us

Embracing the Diversity Within Us

written by By Katherine Ponte, JD, MBA, CPRP, posted in Nami

Everybody has multiple identities whether or not they’re living with mental illness. Among those most important to me: I am a kind-hearted person, a wife, a daughter, a friend, a volunteer, an entrepreneur, a Portuguese-Canadian-American, a Catholic, an Ivy League graduate, and I happen to be a person living with mental illness.

All of this and much more is me. I am proud of all of me. The many aspects of my identity greatly enhance who I am. They give me multiple sources of strength to draw on which help me cope with the challenges of mental illness.

In order for our identities to promote mental health, we have to let ourselves be empowered by them. In particular, a person’s identities can enhance their sense of belonging because they can allow membership and connection with multiple communities. This can be particularly helpful to mental health.

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