Thriving During the Holiday Season
Written by Dr. Liz Matheis
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Thriving during the holiday season, traditionally a time of stress that results in a feeling of depletion once they’re over, can be tricky. This year there’s additional component of COVID-19 to factor in. Many of us are fearful about gathering with family members, becoming ill, or passing on the virus to others.
Our children and adolescents are feeling the effects of the pandemic. The number of children and adolescents who are anxious and fearful of the outside world is growing, and they crave normalcy. So how do we make thriving this holiday season possible? Here are 3 ways to make the season enjoyable by creating new traditions and changing the way we celebrate.
Shift Your Focus
It is so easy to think about activities or traditions in which you may not be able to partake rather than using this time to create memories that you and your family will look back on for years to come. In my house, I want to hear, “Remember in 2020 when we….?”
Even though it feels like the holidays will be different, different doesn’t necessarily mean they’ll be bad. Think about this year as an opportunity to sit with each other, to listen without the need to rush on to next thing. Enjoy each other’s company and get to know each other again. This pandemic gives parents the chance to see what daily routines look like and to understand what their children are doing each day. Couples can reconnect. Siblings can enjoy each other’s company. Perhaps it’s not all that bad, right?
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The Power of Positive Thinking
Jennifer Mandato, MA LAC
As we transition back into the school year we are continually met with new challenges and accommodations to be made. A lot of work with my students has been around social-emotional learning and growth mindset. How to increase their flexibility in these challenging times as well as ways to cope with the many emotions we have been experiencing.
Which gets me thinking as adults how are we doing this? How are we coping with not only the challenges for ourselves but for our children? Are we operating in a growth mindset and flexible to the curveballs thrown our way or are we stuck unable to move forward? How do we do this? How as adults can we operate in a growth mindset? Keep it simple: think positive, talk positive, feel positive.
It is easy to get bogged down with negative thinking patterns during these trying times. Change your mindset. Start the day with a positive outlook. When you find yourself getting stuck on those negative thoughts, flip the switch. I’m not saying ignore everything going on and only operate in happy land, but not to only focus on the negative but the positive things in your life.
Everyone needs to vent now and again, but let’s not dwell here. Talk it out and then problem solve. What are the solutions? What are the happy moments of your day? With your family? At work? Start by once a day talking about the positive moments and then work on increasing that goal.
Talking the talk will help us walk the walk.
Changing our mindset just like we do with our kids can help change our mindset as well. Not just to focus on what isn’t going our way but also to focus on what is. Start with baby steps, see how you feel in a day, week, and then a month.
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Struggling is the exact opposite of failing. Struggling means trying. Trying does NOT equal failure. It means you’re putting in the effort- it means you’re giving it what you’ve got- it means you’re doing everything you can to keep going. The only meaning of failure is not trying at all. Where there is struggle, there is growth
This is one of my favorites to help reframe a bad day (or week or a pandemic). I I hope this gives you the hope it gives me to keep finding my inner strength!
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How To Relieve Stress: 37 Comments From Therapists, Psychologists & People Who’ve Overcome Stress
Stress is staggeringly common in the US, with an earlier study from the American Psychological Association showing that 77% of people “regularly experience physical symptoms caused by stress” and 33% of people “feel they are living with extreme stress” — and in the current climate, those numbers could be even worse today.
For the many people who suffer from stress, this is a compilation of comments on how to relieve stress that therapists, psychologists, social workers and other professionals who have extensive experience treating patients with stress have sent us, as well as comments from various people who have found a method for dealing with their stress that helps them. I’ve summarized the main point in each comment below, along with a link to the full comment(s) for each point:
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