Build Your Child’s Executive Functioning Skills

Build Your Child’s Executive Functioning Skills

written by Dr. Liz Matheis, posted on Psychology Today

As parents, we want to give our children the tools they need so they can be successful. Unfortunately, when our children enter late elementary or middle school, there isn’t a class to teach them how to organize their materials and plan ahead for their assignments, projects, and tests.

When my son and daughter started middle school, they were overwhelmed with how many responsibilities their teachers now expected them to juggle. They weren’t prepared to handle the demands of each class with a different teacher, a locker, so many notebooks to carry, and the weekly array of quizzes, tests, journals, and so on. Throw in a pandemic, and the result is that many kids lost out on building these skills during a critical time.

For children and teens with ADHD, it’s OK if parents need to coach and mentor with a more hands-on approach. Many parents even continue to coach their young adult children while in college, and that’s OK. Keep in mind that each child’s journey is going to be unique. The goal is to make progress without the pressure (on you and your child) to achieve a certain goal by a specific age. That will only serve to frustrate the both of you.

The Best Way to Explain Learning Disabilities to Your Child

The Best Way to Explain Learning Disabilities to Your Child

written by Rick Lavoie, M.A., M.Ed., posted on ADDitude Magazine

A parent once called my special education school to request an admissions visit for her and her son, who was struggling mightily in school. She asked a strange question in her initial phone call: “Does the school have any signs or posters displayed that identify the program as a school for kids with learning disabilities?”

I asked her why she wished to know this. She replied, “My son doesn’t know that he has a learning disability, and we don’t want him to know.” He knows, Mom. Believe me, he knows.

I have long been puzzled by a parent’s reluctance to discuss a child’s learning disability diagnosis with him. The knowledge that he has an identifiable, common, measurable, and treatable condition often comes as great comfort to the youngster. Without this information, the child is likely to believe the taunts of his classmates and feel that he indeed is a dummy. The truth will set him free!

If a child does not have a basic understanding of the nature of his learning challenges, it is unlikely that he will be able to sustain his motivation in the classroom. Because he is puzzled about the difficulty that he is experiencing at school, he is unlikely to be able to commit to his studies.

3 Homework Strategies for Teens With ADHD

3 Homework Strategies for Teens With ADHD

written by Dr. Liz Matheis, posted on Psychology Today

It’s the start of a new school year, the honeymoon phase is slowly beginning to fade, and the rigor of academics is taking off. Every year, I begin the new school year with a mountain-high amount of hope that the summer served as a source of maturation and consolidation of a new set of skills. In many ways, I’m correct and my three children show a new level of growth.

For kids with attention-deficit/hyperactivity disorder (ADHD), or executive functioning struggles, the start of a new school year often comes with a greater need for organization of school materials, time management, prioritization, and study skills.

One thing I hear from parents is that their child may spend hours “working” on homework and have nothing to show for it. How can that be? Well, I went to my best source of information: adolescents.

The responses were honest and raw. I heard that they start their homework, but then the phone dings, or they get an idea about a show or a game, and look it up (because they can). Before they know it, so much time has passed and little or no progress on their assignments has been made.

This is usually the time when a parent checks in and the young man or lady tries to “look” busy, but truly, no real work has been done. Or, teens have said to me that’s when they “bark” at their parents and ask to be left alone. Part of that response is the awareness that they have been sitting in front of their homework for a while but little has been done, and the other part is pure frustration and procrastination.

“Please Let Him Make Just One Friend.”

“Please Let Him Make Just One Friend.”

written by Mary White, posted on Attitude Magazine

This back-to-school season, I implore you: Please talk to your kids about disabilities. Yes, we need to have conversations about physical disabilities — wheelchairs, braces, missing limbs, hearing aides — but let’s not forget to talk about the hidden disabilities that are so often missed entirely. Just because a child looks normal doesn’t mean there is not a battle going on in their brain, and that is so important for everyone — teachers, friends, relatives — to understand.

Here is what I’d like my child’s teachers and classmates to know about my son: He may say or do things that seem strange. Sometimes these things will make him a target for ridicule, judgments, and being left out. He may be “too extra” for the other kids: the extra energy, extra emotions, extra funny, extra loud, extra caring, extra attentive, etc., means he is bullied by some while other kids steer clear of him to avoid the same.

If your child is like my son, you avoid asking about if he made any new friends. Had he made a friend, the excitement of finally being accepted would be beaming across his face; we would already know our kid had exciting news.

 

6 Little Things You Can Do Every Day to Make Your Child More Independent

6 Little Things You Can Do Every Day to Make Your Child More Independent

written by Alanna Gallo, posted on parents.com

As parents, one of our primary parenting goals is to teach our children to be independent. But it’s not always easy for them to become more self-sufficient and responsible—or for parents to let go. Some of this is because our instinct as parents is often to make things easier for them, rescue them from their mistakes, and limit their experiences with struggle or (gasp) failure.

However, kids need to be challenged in order to develop the skills, tenacity, grit, and self-reliance needed to (eventually) function in the world on their own. It takes time, effort, and trust to guide your child to become more independent, but the rewards are well worth it.

Here are some simple things you can do every day to help your little one be more independent.

Let Them Make Mistakes

It may seem counterintuitive at first, but letting kids make mistakes will teach them how to succeed in life. When they make a mistake, let them know it’s OK and help them brainstorm how they might do better next time. Come up with strategies for rectifying the issue, as needed, as well. Mistakes should be welcomed as learning opportunities.

This mindset shift can be used with anything from small mistakes, like choosing not to bring an umbrella when the forecast calls for rain, to larger ones, like failing a test because they decided to wait until the night before to study. Allowing them to feel any discomfort or disappointment that comes with their choice can be difficult. But doing so helps them thrive, and can actually improve their self-esteem and ability to cope with adversity.

It’s hard to see your child struggle. But if you focus on teaching them that failure is just feedback, it helps develop a growth mindset, and with that mindset, they will be able to overcome any struggle confidently and make more informed choices in the future.

6 Ways to Use Your Smartphone to Improve Executive Function Skills

6 Ways to Use Your Smartphone to Improve Executive Function Skills

posted on hill center

Students with learning challenges, especially those with executive function difficulties, often struggle with organization and time management. These executive functioning skills are controlled by the part of the brain known as the frontal lobe, which is not fully mature until a person reaches around 25 years of age, and even later for people with ADHD and other learning differences. For this reason, skills like focusing, getting started on assignments, and staying organized don’t always come easily, as they must be developed and refined over time.

When it comes to school, students commonly forget or misplace assignments, folders, items, or materials. But somehow, no matter what, they always know where their phone is. So why not use this device to help improve their executive functioning skills? Below, we break down six effective strategies and ideas to take full advantage of smartphone technology and support executive function abilities.

The Alarm

Students who struggle with executive function skills are often easily distracted and unorganized. Children can set an alarm with helpful reminders for various tasks and activities. For example, students may benefit from setting an alarm once a week to clean out and organize notebooks and backpacks; that way they can more easily find and use their materials when they need them.

The Speechify App

When a student has trouble with executive function skills, maintaining focus during reading and reading comprehension can be extremely challenging. The Speechify app—created by Cliff Weitzman, an American entrepreneur with dyslexia—reads any text passage or article aloud simply by taking its photo. The Speechify app also stores these audio recordings for later listening, and they can be accessed whenever it is most convenient.

The Notes App

Organization support is key for students who struggle with executive function. Built into most smartphones, notes apps offer a variety of tools and tactics to boost organizational skills. For instance, students can use this app in the table format to outline daily tasks and objectives. They can also use this app to type or voice record their homework assignments for each class. The Notes app even allows for reminders, but students may simply benefit from the simplicity of jotting down their nightly to-do lists.

The Camera

Smartphones are all equipped with sophisticated cameras that can be extremely useful and efficient information-storing tools. Students can use their smartphone camera to snap a photo of homework assignments or lecture notes from the whiteboard. By using the camera, students instantly capture exact instructions for their viewing later on. This tactic is especially helpful if handwriting is particularly challenging or time-consuming.

Voice Recording

Many students have the will and determination to listen, but lack the executive function skillsrequired to retain the information being presented. The voice recording feature, built into all major smartphones allows students to record themselves reading notes aloud. By reciting and recording lesson notes, students can then listen to their notes over and over to improve their retention, lock the information into their long-term memory, and eliminate the need for late-night cramming.

Study Playlists

For some students, having background noise is the key to focusing as they work. Students can use their preferred music streaming service, such as Spotify or Apple Music, to build 30-, 60- and 90-minute playlists of songs for studying. As an important note, these playlists should be composed of songs they know by heart to avoid potential daydreaming or distractions. Have your child estimate how long the assignment is going to take and coordinate the workload with the appropriately lengthed playlist. This tactic has the added advantage of helping students track their time, increasing awareness of how long tasks actually take.

How Hill Learning Center Can Help

We can make a difference. Hill Learning Center is dedicated to transforming students with learning differences and attention challenges into confident, independent learners. We work closely with our family of teachers, parents, and students to promote academic success throughout our community. Contact us if you are interested in taking the next step.

Fostering A Healthy Home Environment for a child with ADHD

Fostering a Healthy Home Environment for a child with ADHD

posted on the frugal room

A child’s surroundings impact their ability to focus and manage ADHD symptoms. Parents can take steps to strategically organize and decorate the home to alleviate stress and reduce distractions for children with ADHD. Mindful organization does not replace therapeutic and medical treatment, but introducing structure and managing distractions can help children maintain focus and composure.

What Is ADHD?

ADHD (attention-deficit hyperactivity disorder) is a condition that affects concentration and impulse control. Based on their symptoms, children may be diagnosed as predominantly inattentive, predominantly hyperactive-impulsive, or a combination of both. Various symptoms related to concentration, time management, forgetfulness, behavior, and mood can affect children with ADHD.

Why Is It Important to Adjust Your Space with Consideration for Children with ADHD?

Decreasing distractions and creating structure makes it easier for kids to manage ADHD symptoms and focus on tasks like chores or schoolwork. In addition to maintaining a consistent routine, creating calm, distraction-free spaces through home organization and decor may reduce your child’s anxiety while boosting their focus.

The ADHD Co-Parenting Guide to Consistent Treatment

The ADHD Co-Parenting Guide to Consistent Treatment

written by  Merriam R. Sarcia Saunders, LMFT, posted on Attitude Magazine

When parents live apart, that might mean more lost or forgotten items, more taxing transitions, and more changes in routine that spark emotional dysregulation. It might also mean less consistent, reliable ADHD treatment, especially during the holidays, when schedules are really out of whack.

Logistical challenges may tempt parents to cancel therapy sessions over the holidays or summer. But when lots of change is swirling around, that is seldom the best time for a treatment break. Here’s how to ensure uninterrupted care — no matter the time of year.

Book List: Characters Who Have Learning and Attention Issues

Book List: Characters Who Have Learning and Attention Issues

posted on Common Sense Media

Dyslexia can make reading really challenging, but it can’t stop a kid from being a hero. Just ask Percy Jackson! And having ADHD can make school tough, but Joey Pigza manages to navigate his academic and family troubles with humor and courage. These books about kids and teens with learning disabilities can mirror the reader’s experience or help readers understand what friends, classmates, and relatives may be going through. For other compassionate stories, check out our lists of Books That Teach Empathy, Books with Characters Who Have Physical Disabilities, and Coming-of-Age Books.

New School Year, New Executive Functioning Strategies

New School Year, New Executive Functioning Strategies

written by Dr. Liz Matheis, published on Psychology Today

The new school year has begun and is beginning to find its swing. Our kids are taking tests and quizzes, they’re assigned papers and projects. It’s happening! Summer is in the distance, and the fall crisp weather is officially here.

As parents, we often think about how to help our children who struggle with poor executive functioning skills such as time management, prioritization, starting a task, completing a task, and keeping school materials organized so they can find their assignments and completed work. Our kids have multiple classes, activities, and daily life tasks that can take a child with attention-deficit disorder/hyperactivity disorder (ADHD) or weaker executive functioning skills and make life feel like a hot mess, for both parent and child.

As an executive functioning coach, I offer many strategies to help our children and teens get their work done so that they can have their downtime to decompress at the end of each day. It’s unrealistic to believe that our children can go-go-go without a break—the same goes for adults. I often pose it as the following, which seems to resonate: “The goal is to get your work done so you can play and rest. You need to have that time so you are ready for the next day.”

With that said, I encourage parents to enroll their child in no more than one activity per child per season to find a balance among extracurricular activities, academics, and social and family life.

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